DiSC® for relationships
Relationships are complex. There are many variables in addition to personality, but it’s an important one. Knowing how others are likely to differ from you and valuing these differences will make your relationships more rewarding, whether you’re thinking about your relationship with your boss, your neighbor, a friend, or your plumber.
How DiSC personalities work together
Simple differences can make big differences in how people look at the world and behave in it.
The DiSC® model measures two fundamental dimensions of human nature:
- Active and assertive (D and i styles) to thoughtful and calm (S and C styles)
- Questioning and objective (C and D styles) to accepting and empathizing (i and S styles)
Each of these styles experiences the world a bit differently, offering its own unique sets of strengths and challenges.
People at different ends of these two scales can easily become frustrated with each other. The more thoughtful and methodical friend can feel rushed by the faster-paced one. The more questioning friend might think their more accepting friends are paying attention to the wrong things. And vice versa, of course.
The DiSC D and S types are considered opposite of each other, as are the i and C types. It’s often these personalities directly across from each other on the Everything DiSC® map who find themselves clashing or complementing each other. They tend to express themselves in different ways and from different sets of priorities.
However, even those with the same DiSC style can express that style differently. In the example below, you’ll see that two people sharing the same scores on the skepticism to acceptance scale can still experience roadblocks in their relationship with each other.
Both similar and divergent personalities can work in sync or collaboratively. We do this by acknowledging and seeking to understand the needs and priorities of others. People in strong relationships learn to speak for their own needs and also adapt their behaviors to meet the needs of others.
We suggest three ways personalities can work better together.